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How to get on with your flatmates...

By Konrad 21 Sep 2022

At Intercollegiate Halls, you will meet lots of different people and that's all part of the amazing experience!

Living in halls is a great opportunity to meet new people and learn lots of new things about yourself and other people. Introducing yourself to strangers and living with people you've never met might be daunting at first but you'll soon get the hang of it. You never know, you could meet friends for life - and remember, everyone is a little apprehensive at first!

Following these tips means that you'll be a pretty amazing flatmate and no one will ever have a reason to argue with you or be annoyed. 

Understand that everyone is different 

From outgoing extroverts to quieter introverts, everyone you meet will be different. They'll like different things, have different living habits and expectations of living in halls. It's important to make time and put in the effort to get to know your flatmates. In turn, you'll be able to develop a better bond and understand each other whilst living together. Remember, you're all in the same boat!

Be respectful

Whether it's being respectful of each other's personal space or dividing chores equally, this is one of the most important things you'll need to do. Try to keep on top of your washing up, keep the living area clean and tidy, don't make too much noise at night and let your flatmates know when you're having guests round.

If you live in a self-catered hall and you share a kitchen with others, make sure that you never leave a mess after cooking. While you are relaxing after having eaten and gathering the strength to do some washing up, another flatmate might be waiting impatiently to be able to cook in a clean kitchen... Never let anyone wait and make sure the kitchen always looks the way you'd like to find it.

Being a reliable, respectful and trustworthy housemate will make a lot of difference. Treat others how you want to be treated. 

Learn to compromise

Living with others always comes with a bit of give and take. There will always be times when your flatmates prefer things done a certain way and it's easier to meet in the middle if a problem arises so there's no tension in the flat. Having a problem with even one of your flatmates can create issues for everyone, so learning to compromise - even over the smallest things - is essential. 

Organise activities together 

Having fun together is a great way to strengthen your bond and find common interests. This way, you can make some amazing memories and maintain a positive vibe in the flat. University can be stressful so it would be beneficial for everyone to get out and enjoy themselves. It can be as simple as walking to uni together, cooking a meal together or having a movie night. 

The Warden's Team organise a lot of activities, especially at the beginning of the year - make a plan to go to some of them together with your flatmates; it will be a perfect chance to get to know each other better and some other people too!

Don't expect things to happen overnight

Earning each other's trust and friendship can take time. Don't be disappointed if you're not best friends within the first week, getting settled in is a long process and some people take a while to feel comfortable. Be there for each other when you need it, give each other space and don't try to force friendships straight away. It'll be worth it in the long run. 

In some cases, you might find that your relationship with your flatmates isn't progressing. Remember you can always speak to someone at your accommodation or at your university. Don't hesitate to reach out for advice as and when you need it!